spike jonze her 2013

Her!

spike jonze her 2013

So I just finished watching Her. You guys I don’t even know how to begin. This film messed me up. If you can see me now I am a big ball of fat and hair and feelings. I want to write how I feel now because it is important to me.

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RUBY SPARKS AS A THOUGHT EXERCISE

I told myself no. I said I wouldn’t watch this film because nobody wants to see it with me. I can’t watch a movie alone considering the kind of mess I am today and how this will complicate things a tad. I was okay with missing out on it while everybody on the internet talks about how great this film was. Said I will just have to wait on its DVD release but then an old friend of mine wanted to see a movie with me and there I was thinking my life is a fucking bore.

Ruby Sparks is the story of Calvin (Dano), a young writer suffering from sophomore writer’s block and various general neuroses. On one of his therapy sessions, he talked about a dream he had about a lady he doesn’t know. His therapist suggested he write a one-page story about someone liking his dog, Scotty, just the way he is and that was how the concept of Ruby Sparks (Kazan) started. Calvin and his overzealousness to writing his story was stunned when Ruby, the lady character he wrote, became a real person, his real girlfriend, the love of his life.

Ruby Sparks was surprisingly deep. I knew its premise was somehow original and that a lot of people are championing this film as movie of the year because in all honesty, the film was great. I mean, I tend to lean on the other half of the population that thinks the ending was totally uncalled for but in general I love how they found the balance between romantic comedies and message-making.

I love the theme that in relationships, there is always good and bad and that you can’t have one without the other, that it’s about letting people just be, not putting them in boxes or burying them in expectations or shutting them out when it gets too hard.

“I couldn’t see you when you were here and now that you’re gone, I see you everywhere.”

I love that Calvin was so scared about being left alone again. We were briefly introduced to Lila, his five-year long girlfriend who left him shortly after his father died and that’s also the reason he detests her. He became obsessed with the idea of Ruby depending on him despite of his flaws and when Ruby showed signs that she might leave him, that’s when Calvin started changing her which was a dumb move but somehow accurate. When you have the power to control a person, to manipulate every little quirk or habit to fit your personality, you know you’re going to do it. Why change when you can modify your lover into being the perfect person in the whole universe?

I love that Calvin realized falling in love is an act of magic. That it’s not about who’s in control or who loves more or who gets the most freedom. That love is about being happy and content with whoever you’re with. It’s about having enough space to work on the relationship as couples. It’s about those stirring alterations in your life you have no control of.

I love that it was reiterated in the film that quirky, messy women, whose problems only make them endearing do not exist. I am so tired of seeing hot messes getting all the love when they don’t even know what to do with everything they’re receiving. You know, these people should fucking get their shit together first.

What I find challenging was that I see parts of myself in Calvin. Thank god I am not a writer with a magical typewriter or an incredible imagination because then, I’d be creating a perfect boyfriend and that would ruin all the fun (and me!). The first half of the movie was absolutely magnificent. The banter between Zoe Kazan and Paul Dano (who are a real life couple) was witty, creative, and real. The other half was a mix of emotional punches right in the apex of my heart along with very impressive realizations I guess to think about later. In the middle of the film, I wanted to stop everything and applause because goddamn the climax was so strong, well-written, well-acted, and it was proper in all the right ways. It was really, really good.

I feel that this film is something that you can discuss over coffee with your friends because most of us feel like Calvin or Ruby at times and the concept of second chances. I don’t believe in second chances but guess what, this movie kinda made me believe in it. Baby steps, amirite?

Ultimately, it was a very entertaining film and I recommend everyone to see it because it’s totally worth it. You’d be surprised by how this movie will affect you even in the tiniest way.

THE COMPULSION TO FILL EMPTY SPACES

Take This Waltz is one of the saddest films I have seen in my life. I can’t recall the last time I was so decidedly torn on a movie.

When Margot (Michelle Williams), 28, meets Daniel (Luke Kirby), their chemistry is intense and immediate. But Margot suppresses her sudden attraction; she is happily married to Lou (Seth Rogen), a cookbook writer. When Margot learns that Daniel lives across the street from them, the certainty about her domestic life shatters. She and Daniel steal moments throughout the steaming Toronto summer, their eroticism heightened by their restraint. Swelteringly hot, bright and colorful like a bowl of fruit, Take This Waltz leads us, laughing, through the familiar, but uncharted question of what long-term relationships do to love, sex, and our images of ourselves. — (C) Official Site

The visuals are saturated and gorgeous, the story fairly basic, but it’s the characters that are so divisive. I had difficulty relating to the movie since I’m not married, I haven’t sat next to a cute guy on a plane, and I haven’t ridden a questionable fair ride with The Buggles’ “Video Killed the Radio Star” blasting through the speakers. I have been cheated on though it doesn’t even measure up to this.

What I liked about this film is the realness of it. I used to think that you will find someone who will love you no matter how boring you get, no matter how repetitive your lives are, no matter how ordinary the days become. As I grew older I learned that people are unsatisfied eighty per cent of the time. That’s sad, isn’t it? We treat each other like toys and once a new one comes out in the market, no matter how much we value the old toy, we’d move great heights to get our hands on the slicker one everyone talks about. Batteries not included.

All the sexual tension awards

And boy, did Seth Rogen break my heart. He set Williams free because, what more could be done, right? He knew the love was lost, the thrill was gone, the spark faded. Their cute exchange of why they love each other was done and it’s time to play it with another man. Little did she know about the circle of life. It’s true, she had her fun. It was raw, erotic, passionate, then what?

Sad face

Will Shortz, the editor of the famed New York Times crossword puzzle said, “As human beings, we have a natural compulsion to fill empty spaces.” That was what happened. She found an empty space, she filled it, only to find herself in a rut because that’s what people do. We fill empty spaces and the more gaps we fill, the more in between things we become.